Staring at an empty message box?

You don't need the perfect line. You need anything that gives the other person something to grab onto.

Skip 'hey.' Be specific.

'What's something you're weirdly good at?' beats 'how are you' every single time.

Give them an on-ramp.

Share a little about yourself too — not just a question to answer. Make it easy to reply.

Match their energy.

One word back? Keep it light. Playful? Play back. The rhythm matters more than the words.

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