People open up faster than you think.

With a stranger there's no long-term risk — and that makes honesty surprisingly easy.

Go first.

Share a little real thing about yourself and you give them permission to do the same.

Ask, then actually listen.

A genuine follow-up question signals you care about the answer — that's what unlocks people.

Drop the judgment.

People feel safe when they're not being evaluated. Curiosity beats opinion every time.

Try it with someone new →