Whatever you bring to a conversation — warmth, curiosity, heaviness — the other person will tend to mirror it. You set the tone.
You don't have to be cheerful. You just have to be genuinely interested. Curiosity is always warm, always inviting.
You can be honest about hard things while still leading with what's alive and curious in you. Both can coexist.
Not every chat will match your energy. Leaving a conversation that's dragging you down is self-care, not rudeness.
The conversation will largely be what you make it. Bring your warmth, your humor, your curiosity — and watch what grows.